Everywhere, every single day, we are confronted with limitations. What we can do, and where we can (or can’t) do it is spelled out on signs, in court documents and governmental decree.

It gets pretty heavy, and quite negative most of the time. Within minutes of reading this you will surely come across directions that will steer you away from something, or remind you that you just can’t.

I know I’m tired of rules and regulations, boundaries, orders, and 24-hour limitations. There are far too many do nots and thou shalt nots, and the word NO is too direct and just damn bossy.

While I respect and, yes, understand the need for law and order, I feel we, as a society, dwell too much on directive instead of focusing on the opportunities available to us. I’ve taken the liberty of offering some everyday possibilities (please feel free to add to the list).

WE can, and WE should:

• Compliment strangers on tattoos, neckties, and the proper use of manners (and chopsticks).
• Eat more quinoa and spinach, or kale (if you want to be trendy).
• Breathe a little deeper.
• Think more about meditating (which in itself may be meditation enough).
• Wear T-shirts that say something (or nothing at all).
• Visit a place you’ve never seen with a person you don’t see enough.
• Pick up the phone and use it as it was intended. Ignore the texts and data, for even just a day, and communicate.
• Replace well-worn, much-loved records that no longer do the music justice. Install a new needle in the turntable.
• Read a biography once in a while and learn how an actor, artist, or even a politician dealt with their shit.
• Write down your dreams, even the scary ones.
• Look across the table and decide if that person is truthful, respectful, and worthy of your time. Ask yourself if you are as well.
• Drive less, but still go places.
• Cultivate kindness.
• Remember places, people, and things once important to you; that includes your morals and ethics.
• Make eye contact.
• Cook the next recipe you see in a magazine. Get away from the same ‘ol-same ‘ol tastes by trying new ingredients and spices.
• Put away your mobile device when walking down the sidewalk. How much life is passing you by just because your head is down?
• Try out a new fragrance. You were a different person when you selected your last favorite scent. Smell like the present.
• Purchase new bedsheets. Comfort is important 24 hours a day
• Smile more often. Sometimes it’s hard, I know, and you don’t see a lot of shiny happy faces walking down the street. We can all change that just by smiling more, and smiling back.
• Turn off the television, turn up the silence.
• Clean behind the fridge.
• Try to live tomorrow a little better than today. Repeat daily.
• Rid yourself of a bad habit by embracing a new one.
• Keep a list of things you want to do. Stroke items off the list as you progress.
• Expand your mind. Take a class in something; pottery, painting, anthropology, tax peperation.
• Expand your vocabulary. Do a crossword puzzle, play Scrabble, or pick random words out of the dictionary.
• Buy yourself new underwear. Would your mother approve of what you are wearing now?
• Practice yoga, take spin classes, run, climd, or bowl: do something that gets your blood pumping.
• Set the table with your finest china and light a candle, even if you are dining alone.
• Invite a neighbor over for dinner. You’ve already taken the time to set a nice table..
• Do something you’ve never done before, and always be prepared to try new things.
• Know the rules. This is especially important if you intend on breaking them.

Be grateful for what we have and appreciate all we have been through. It’s taken a while to get here, and you’ve survived your fair share of bad days and emotional traffic. Thinking of what you’ve done is far more productive than being told what you can’t.

Please feel free to add to the list by clicking on comment (up above). What should you be doing?