Mythos & Marginalia

2015 – 2025: a decade of days


  • Sunday Sounds And Scents

    by Abena Buahene
    I grew up believing there was something magical about Sunday mornings.

    Snuggled deep in my featherbed as frost from a Canadian winter framed the window, or laying on top of a crisp sheet and breathing the scent of Freesias that had hitched a ride on a Mediterranean breeze to my bedroom, Sunday mornings, no matter where in the world we lived, always had their own predictable and comforting rhythm.

    I would lay there in that delicious state of being awake, but not quite ready to jump out of bed and begin the day. Unlike the other days of the week where mornings were about getting to school, work, or Saturday wash day, Sunday mornings were about my mother’s ritual.

    Always I was quite happy to lay there and let ritual unfold.

    The coffee grinder was the first sign that my mother was up and about. Now, you have to know this noise was reserved for only Sunday morning coffee or when my parents entertained. Instant coffee was the order of the day through the week, but my mother (as with her mother) was a great believer that coffee made from freshly-ground beans was Sunday worthy.

    Soon the kettle whistle would blow and then, ever so gently, the smell of brewed coffee would waft from the kitchen, down the hallway, to my room. The first part of the ritual was complete.

    I would next hear the sound of the mixer scrapping the sides of the brown plastic bowl, the one with a chip near the pouring spout. On Sundays, my mother would make something special for breakfast like blueberry-banana pancakes, raisin scones or zucchini muffins. If she was up especially very early, she’d bake Finnish cardamom bread to be served with her homemade strawberry jam. The sound of the oven door closing signalled that the second part of the ritual was done. By this time, my growling stomach was telling me it would soon be time to get up.

    The opening and closing of cupboard doors, rattling of dishes and cutlery, combined with the smell of baking, completed the ritual. It would now only be a matter of minutes before my mother, sitting on the edge of my bed, would be tousling my hair and telling me it was “time to start the day”.

    We all have certain sounds, scents, sights, or sayings that evoke memories. Some memories bring on a smile, laughter, or just that plain old feeling of happiness. Others make us tear-up, bring on grief, anger or frustration. This Mother’s Day will be the seventh one where my father, sister and I will place Freesias on my mother’s grave. We will each be lost for a few moments in our private thoughts of remembrance; her kindness to strangers; her loyalty to friends; her pride in her profession; her joy of picking raspberries and, above all, her utter devotion to family.

    My mother’s Sunday morning ritual. Even now, in my dreams, I hear the coffee grinder, smell freshly-brewed coffee, and feel her hand on my head.

    Sunday sounds and scents, a perfect reminder of my mother’s love; predictable and comforting.

    Abena Buahene is a daughter, mother, sister, and street photographer who lives and loves in Toronto. She enjoys baking and still treats her father to many of her mother’s favourite recipes.

  • I Am A Mother

    by Kayla Harrison

    Google defines the act of “mothering” as, “bringing up with care and affection” or “giving birth to.”

    Though I am not a mother to children, I am still a mother.

    I am a mother to my ideas, to the words I write down on a page, to my stories. I am a mother to my kindness, making sure it’s birthed in every conversation. I am a mother to my body, giving it all that it needs to survive.


    I am a mother to my soul, nurturing it with good music and sunshine.

    Like my own mother, I have a heart that beats with passion, a heart that knows it beats not for me, but for others. I give what I have to those that don’t.

    I am a mother to those closest to me, making sure they know they are loved.

    
I am a mother to those I don’t know, those I see on the streets with no home.


    I am a mother to those struggling to find hope, those that cry out wondering if anyone hears them. I am a mother to those begging for something to make them feel again.

    Like my own mother, I just want everyone to be happy.


    I want everyone to know someone cares.


    I want everyone to see they’re more than their past and their mistakes.

    Being a mother is more than having children.


    It’s feeling — maybe a little too much some days.


    It’s caring for something or someone with all that you have.


    It’s putting time and effort into making a work of art — a masterpiece. It’s loving, with every ounce of being.

    I care and I feel and I love. I create and I mold.
 I hug and I hold tight.
    And though I am not a mother to children, I am still a mother.

    2018 Kayla Harrison

    Kayla Harrison is a Writing Arts graduate student at Rowan University, editor at The Urban Howl, and freelance writer for Business News Daily. Her goal in life is to find those who’ve lost their sense of wonder and guide them to rediscovering it. To Kayla, reading is a way of discovering the world, and writing a way of making sense of it all. To learn more about her and her writing, check out her blog insearchofthewritedirection.weebly.com

  • More Than Being There

    Motherhood is a hand-to-hand, heart-to-heart, connection formed by being there.

    Two years now I have watched the most beautiful bond develop between a child, and a mother who thought she may never be. It has become so obvious that this kind of love is more than DNA.

    The woman had never expressed to her family the desire to be a parent, yet she — one who always held such a tight relationship with her own mother — decided in her teenage years that motherhood was something she wanted to experience.

    A single woman who had developed a successful business, she put off a lot of personal stuff as the business prospered and met goals and objectives until she decided she could not ignore her personal goal any longer.

    A few years back she announced to her family the intention to adopt.

    Two years ago, after all the legal and leg work that is part of the process, she got the call. Her baby had been born.

    Life changes, just like that.

    This child has been given a full and complete life with loving aunts and uncles, a doting grandfather, and cousins who arrived about the same time. The mother, a good friend to so many, has support beyond her close family. You hear the expression that it takes a village to raise a child, well this child was born into one happy, committed village.

    The woman has also been given the complete life she was craving, and one she deserves. In the process she has changed. Perhaps not in ways immediately noticeable, as I’ve only been learning or getting to know her further through the past years, I can see the changes.

    I can see the love. I can see this child becoming so much like her Mom. I see traits and habits, and similarities, as this pair adjust to each other. Adoption was only a process for realizing a relationship that was meant to be.

    Motherhood is not about flesh and blood, not always. Motherhood is more than being there. Motherhood, certainly in this case, is an opportunity for learning, and for growing, and for being who you were meant to be.

    Children learn by watching, intuition, and trial and error.

    Mothers learn by watching, intuition, and trial and error.

    Nature and nurture equal forces, we all learn by watching and experiencing life and love.

  • Bending Light

    Refraction. Reflection.
    Gradient tones of expression,
    landscapes or history,
    our light rarely follows a straight line.
    Curves. Diagonally,
    adjustment required in space or
    sign, it seeps through cracks
    moves forcefully beyond sublime.

    Unusually unaware,
    we cannot control the capacity, or
    silence, of corresponding darkness.
    An unlikely presence of another mind.
    Intimacy initially.
    To those who dare expose themselves,
    our light will not be altered
    but eternally fortified.

    Transcendent existence,
    born unto an incidental state, we
    cannot separate stigma from strata.
    Dust on the wind, particles of matter.
    Fragmentation, alienation,
    morals to immortality, holding tight
    all we believe is crucial.
    Our life rarely follows a straight line.

    ©2018 j.g. lewis

  • Year Of The Dog

    Lazy summer days to an entire year of honour, I am
    celebrated as much as scorned. The beast
    allowed into your home and bed, my definition or
    exhibition of loyalty, and love, is to be questioned
    as it is accepted.

    Companionship influenced
    by kind voice or treats offered. Easily convinced.
    Temptation or transgressions, it takes little
    to capture my attention, much more to hold it.
    Contrary to belief, I cannot be trained.

    Pedigree required to act on command. A mongrel,
    comfortable in its identity, knows better
    ways of the street.

    Not meant to stand still. Often,
    I have strained at the leash, welts on my neck
    from collar tight, firm hand, and fierce effort.
    I have and will, without notice, escape
    into the greater world.
    Mischief has been made in the night.

    I have howled at many moons, carelessly run
    with the pack of unsuitable delinquents, and lain down
    with bitches of convenience who led me astray.

    I’ve sniffed, slobbered ravenously,
    at opportunities seized. Feral at heart, mindlessly foolish,
    each moment an occurrence to be appreciated
    and savoured. Biologically stimulated,
    there is no thought process to primal urge.
    Even Pavlov was mistaken when it came to reward.

    I have pissed in places I shouldn’t have; begged
    for food, release, comfort, or companionship.
    Deliriously exhausted, I will curl up
    on your comfortable couch and offer no reason
    or excuse for my whereabouts or behaviour.

    Sleeping dogs lie. Dream of what happened
    and when again, ears twitch in afternoon silence.
    Another night soon will come.

    Scratch my back until I growl,
    receive my wet nose and attention unconditionally.
    Hose me down when I smell, take me for a car ride
    once in a while, so I can see other possibilities.
    Understand, however, my need for independence.
    I will run out, dart into traffic, as
    I try to find my own way.

    Yes, I will stray, yet miraculously or mysteriously,
    always find my way home. I am a dog.

    © 2018 j.g. lewis